HUNNIMUMMI
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im a 'reasonably' young mum who has lost my children
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Post by HUNNIMUMMI on Jul 1, 2004 11:22:05 GMT -5
marc, ive just read your posts...it is your choice in the end, but they did exactly that to me.... they said if i made my partner move out and just see him away from the 2kids i had left, then things would be ok, i could keep the kids, we did this, then less than 4 months later, they took them away but then if i was to break my ties with him completely (despite me being 8 1 1/2 mnths pregnant with his baby) then they would be returned. we did that after alot of talking and tears, we were still apart at the birth and thereafter, so he saw very little of his daughter. then she went, i was in a bad way, so he came home with me once more to make sure i made it through. that was thrown in our face "maybe she should of seen a doctor" we were told. so a suicidal mum and a dad that didn't give a toss was the better option?? please think carefully, i expect you have already thought of options and ideas, you could try the "i'm willing to learn....." offer to go to a residential group together so that they could assess you working together as a team. you have probably already explored the different ideas. i wish you both the best of luck and whatever decision you make, please let it work
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Marc
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Post by Marc on Jul 2, 2004 21:19:24 GMT -5
Hi Thank-you so very much for your support. I am sorry for having to squander my posts, however again this is due to UNDISCLOSABLE REASONS
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Post by livingforjustice on Jul 3, 2004 19:39:27 GMT -5
Hi marc im sorry that you and your partner have to seperate at such a awfull time for you both,this is the most time when you need each other and you are each others rock,but stay strong the both of you. the social services are always dictateing that,they work for the best intrest of the child,how can making familys separate be in the best intrest of a child,its all crap. I think the ss dept works on a bonus scheme and has to meet targets on how many familys they can tear apart,its more like a competion to them
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HUNNIMUMMI
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im a 'reasonably' young mum who has lost my children
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Post by HUNNIMUMMI on Jul 7, 2004 6:02:27 GMT -5
it still amazes me as to why, the bastards take children from families that may have problems but such that can be solved and improved or from families that have have been targetted, yet so many are left in abusive homes!! off the top of my head i can think of 4families where the kids remail with thier parents, 3 of which arent even being hassled by ssd! 1 was taken to court for care orders and she got away with it, she has 6 kids, the eldest 2 were adopted by the maternal grandmother, and the remaining 4 are a state, the other families...... 1 i see very often as they live near a freind, mum and dad bellow at the kids (theres 4) dad frequently slaps them round the head, the eldest is 10, doesnt go to school as every school in the area has refused him. so when the others go to school and they go out, he's locked in the house and has been seen escaping from the bedroom window!! another is a 'friend', her boy has adhd, but alot of it is played on and just naughtiness. he came back from school aged 13 told his mum he was smoking ciggies and also POT, i told a sw and was told there had to be a complaint by the mother foir it to be investigated....so i said that I was making an allegation as surely that would be classed as neglect or whatever, i was told that there would need to be three. mum wasnt going to say anything as "well they all do it there".. i may be wrong, but if i thought for 1 minute that one of my kids was doing pot or smoking at school and being allowed to do so, they'd be out that school straight away and it would be reported... mind you tho.. i'm a bad mother!! maybe allowing it to continue is what good ones do............. where is the justice?? they want to take a good long hard look around at people... abusers do not have a label stuck to their heads..... dont do it in public,,,, what about the ones that have never been seen, or known by ssd?? nobody knows until the child is dead or seriously injured, then its a case of "whoops-we DIDNT KNOW" Maybe i'm bitter and cynical and yes sensitive to this, but how can they pinpoint and label families when they dont see the whole pictures? maybe they should LISTEN which i'm wondering if they know what the phrase 'listen and learn' actually means
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Post by karen on Sept 10, 2004 9:17:27 GMT -5
just stumbled on this sight and it is very interesting,when you take on such a monster like ss it seems that you will never win well parents MUST allways stay together as a bonded couple only then will you fight and win these sadistic little social workers like nothing more than an easy fight which is what you are giving them by splitting up be united in ALL your decisions and never forget they may ALL be stupid but only when it suits them be aware that they are sly ,they tried to destroy my family but they failed now its my turn to destroy those who accussed me without any evidence only opinion
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